I’m a Black Woman Who’s Met All the Standards for Promotion. I’m Not Waiting to Reward Myself

https://time.com/5958844/black-woman-self-care/

“American culture encourages you to delay feeling proud of yourself until external validation has been granted. Practice this and you get to the point where you cannot feel proud until that validation materializes. And if it doesn’t, you withhold approval of yourself. Then, because you are always in your own company, you constantly feel like you’re lacking and you get to the point where even external validation cannot land.”