I’m a Black Woman Who’s Met All the Standards for Promotion. I’m Not Waiting to Reward Myself

https://time.com/5958844/black-woman-self-care/

“American culture encourages you to delay feeling proud of yourself until external validation has been granted. Practice this and you get to the point where you cannot feel proud until that validation materializes. And if it doesn’t, you withhold approval of yourself. Then, because you are always in your own company, you constantly feel like you’re lacking and you get to the point where even external validation cannot land.”

Letters | Undermining whiteness, celebrating Scotus | Commonweal Magazine

It is in this context that we should ask not whether white people should contribute or even lead a racial-justice agenda, but where they are capable of doing so. First, white people need to recover their humanity. After half a millennium of self-professed and violently enforced racial superiority, they are simply incapable of engaging us as fully human by virtue of our exclusion from their race. Whiteness is itself the proof of full humanity in the West. To be white is to be human; to be human is to be white. 
— Read on www.commonwealmagazine.org/letters-undermining-whiteness-celebrating-scotus